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A decent, practicing guy is interested in getting married. He doesn't have a huge list of connections looking out fo him, or that
How can decent practising Muslim man like myself find a woman ? A decent, practicing guy is interested in getting married.

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He doesn't have a huge list of connections looking out fo him, or that intramasjid cultural connection he can rely on for his purposes. What are his options? Let's first start with what his options aren't : Tawakkul al-Allah, without putting in any effort. We just mentioned the guy is decent and practicing, so by nature you can assume he does voluntary fasts, like other non-married men. He keeps his du'as up, has a list of his go-to du'as, we're all aware of them. He obviously has a good opinion of his Lord, and knows that whatever he is deprived of is best for him and whatever he is provided of is best for him. So sitting in a corner and not doing anything is not an option because we all understand that in addition to having tawakkul, one also needs to exert some effort. Ask the local imam at the surrounding masaajid. We all know that the local imams don't do jaaaaaaack in terms of actually helping people get hooked up. Doesn't matter if you're in some shabby town or if you're in a huge community, imams wont do more than bobble their heads and maybe offer you some encouraging words. They don't have the know-how, the ability, the connections nor the desire to do any type of networking" for their community members. Approach the masjid's official matrimonial committee. if it has one. Most masaajid won't have one to begin with. The few that do in the larger communities, you'll be lucky if there's actually anyone answering the emails. Most of the matrimonial committees are relics of the past, a "good effort" perhaps initiated by ex-employees and now are just empty information entry forms on the masjids website where data gets sucked into a black hole. The few masaajid that do hit you back up, the quality of what you get out of it is either complete trash or approaching it. This isn't because the suitors are bad people specifically, but because the one's doing the matching seem to be using a random number generator rather than actual matching based upon the criterion they've specified when accounts were created initially. Step to a sister you see in real life. Maybe deep inside the sister will be glad she's desirable enough that someone bothered to approach her. But as someone who's done this on multiple occasions to sisters at various levels of religious practice, the one constant is that SISTERS DON'T WANT a brother approaching them directly asking for marriage! Even if all you do is extremely politely request a wali's contact, doesn't matter. Even if you're hot / attractive, most sisters will not like this approach. Again, this is across levels of practice, not just the religious ones. You might get a giggle and a little flirt action out of the non-religious ones, but you sure won't be getting marriage. Spend mad bank to fly out and attend a speed-dating banquet at a Muslim convention. Most of these conventions are organized and attended by extremely liberal, borderline secular muslim crowds. Particularly the matrimonial banquets. If there are 100 people present, it's guaranteed at least 70 of the 100 will be women and at least 65 of the 70 women won't even establish hijab and will wear otherwise revealing clothing. Again, we aren't saying here these ladies are bad people. If anything, we all know that the hijab is typically something more "cultural" than religious in the greater muslim demographic. since said brother is decent and practicing, non-hijaabis, irrespective of their character and other good aspects aren't going to be an option. Ask a "friend" to hit up a sister. We all know that most single guys are haters to begin with. And those who made it out alive and got married are too preoccupied in their own lives to even want to venture into the horrid realm of match making. If you do have one solid friend that is married and is willing to work with his wife or sister or whatever to help you out, then you run into the next issue, which is. There really aren't any practicing, marriageable sisters publicly available anyway. Why is is that immediately after college, practicing sisters disappear from the masjid scene entirely? You don't see them for jumu'ah or any of the five daily salawaat. They don't typically volunteer or help out in masjid activities either once they're out of college. They don't take classes offered by the masjid except seldomly. How do you ladies expect to be approached by a nice religious guy if you're 100% hidden from the public view entirely? It's not like your dads and brothers are at the masjid soliciting for you. And even if they were, most likely they have inbred / borderline racist tendencies and would rather hook you up with a dude who grew up on the street your grandfather was born on rather than a Man who's known to attend fajr regularly. 8. Try online sites/apps , These sites/apps typically fall into two categories. Either the site has so few people that the time you vest signing up and setting up your account could better be spent reading a single page of the Qur'an, because the nearest sister to you is 1500 mi away, and they only get 1 new sign up a month for a grand total of 12 new people per year. OR the app is flooded with men and ladies who's level of practice is so low that not only does one feel disgusted using the app, but they have to do it in privacy for fear of something misconstruing that they're browsing pornography. Whichever route, once (if) you do meet that 1 / 1000 sister who actually prays 5x/day, knows more than 5 surahs from the Qur'an, is modest with her dealings with the opposite gender, actually believes hijaab is fard m, and has more education than high school, she either (again) ends up being a complete racist, OR her family ends up being racist, OR she hasnt yet "discovered" herself and finds it hard to describe herself even though she's been alive for +20 years, OR she mysteriously disappears off the internet a week into conversing, OR, etc. etc. etc. So how exactly is a decent, practicing guy who's interested in getting married supposed to go about doing it? I feel that this issue is so complicated, that there must be some clear, clean-cut solution out there which exist. But that it's just somehow escaped me all this time. So, r/muslimcorner , what am I missing? How can I meet a modest sister that prefers to and actually associates and hangs out with other sisters, rather than with men (just like I hang out with men and don't engage with women outside professional relationships)? One that wears hijab properly due to Islam and not due to culture?













Where can i find a decent man


Where can i meet a decent man